The Bates Family

Engaged and In Love!!

by Kelly on August 25, 2013

  August 5, 2013 Chad Paine proposed to Erin. She had asked him to tell her the day so she could rearrange her schedule, but she had no idea what all that this special day would include!IMG_5101

   First, Chad took Erin to lunch at Calhoun’s on the River, where they enjoyed a window seat overlooking the beautiful river. Then they took a stroll on the dock, and sat in a swing to treasure the moment!

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But the best followed…They left Knoxville and drove an hour to the gorgeous setting of Whitestone Inn… To be Continued…

(All photos by Thomas Paine)

{ 125 comments… read them below or add one }

Jennifer August 26, 2013 at 2:10 am

Congrats Erin & Chad!!

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Beth C. August 26, 2013 at 2:20 am

The Whitestone Inn is so beautiful ! Can’t wait to see more pictures! Congratulations to the bride & groom!

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Carita August 26, 2013 at 2:24 am

Beautiful pictures…but you are keeping us all in suspense. LOL. God Bless your family. I enjoy the posts and the stories of your family. By the way…is there a chance of a double wedding or ?

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Kelly August 26, 2013 at 2:40 am

Dear Carita,
Not a double wedding, but close! Erin and Chad have picked Nov. 2nd, 2013. Zach and Whit are leaning toward March. Love, Kelly

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Carita August 26, 2013 at 4:28 am

Wonderful, I am so excited for both couples :) God Bless <3

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Natalie August 26, 2013 at 6:27 pm

So Zach and Whit are engaged?

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Kelly August 26, 2013 at 8:50 pm

Dear Natalie,
Zach is not engaged yet. He just bought a ring, now he’s planning the special details for proposal. I suspect it will be soon since he’s acting like a kid too excited to sit still. Love, Kelly

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Tonya Bailey August 27, 2013 at 4:27 am

LOL Kelly!

Natalie August 28, 2013 at 6:33 pm

:-)

Mary August 26, 2013 at 2:41 am

Oh so lovely! Erin looks beautiful! Is it usual in courtship to never be alone? Does that mean you don’t trust your adult children or is there another reason?
Congrats to the lovely couple!

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Kelly August 26, 2013 at 9:30 pm

Der Mary,
It’s not aa matter of trust, but rather, it’s safe guards. They could choose to not go that route; they’re adults, but most of our children realize the temptations of being alone. Chaperones don’t mean that there are no opportunities for private conversations or walking a good distance ahead, or sitting at their own table. My children wear seatbelts, not because I do not trust my children’s driving skills, but rather to prevent injury if an accident occurs. Likewise, chaperones don’t mean I don’t trust my children, but it is n added help for those weak moments when romance could lead you further than you had wanted. Love, Kelly

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Katrina August 27, 2013 at 12:59 am

Dear Mrs. Bates,

I just wanted to say “thank you” for your explanation of chaperones. I’ve never heard the concept be explained from this perspective before, and it gave me a new appreciation of the need for them one day. Thank you!
God’s blessings on your family. I’m so excited for yous in this “new season”!
Love,
Katrina

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kelly August 29, 2013 at 7:47 pm

Good answer!

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Tonya Bailey August 26, 2013 at 2:48 am

Congrats to the BEAUTIFUL couple!!!

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Kathleen August 26, 2013 at 3:05 am

Hi Kelly,

Congrats to you all! Did I miss a post about Zach & Whit? I didn’t realize he’s engaged now, too. How exciting for everyone. I do wish that TLC would bring your show back. You have such an inspiring and joy-filled family. I love your blog, so I will be happy with that in addition to re-runs on TLC. Thank you for taking the time to update us.

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Kelly August 26, 2013 at 3:10 am

Dear Kathleen,
He’s not engaged yet, but he has bought a ring and is working on plans to surprise Whit! Soon! Love, Kelly

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Kathleen August 29, 2013 at 3:52 am

Hi Kelly,

That is so very sweet of him to put so much thought into the special occasion. Clearly Whit is getting a keeper. I can only hope our daughters’ future husbands will do the same. This must be such an exciting time for you, Gil, and the entire family. I so appreciate your sharing it with us all.

Blessings to you,
Kathleen

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Gen August 26, 2013 at 3:21 am

Such a highly personal moment between two adults. . . honestly, no offense intended, but it seems so strange to have mommy and daddy there. Surely Erin can be trusted to sit alone at a table with her intended.

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Kelly August 26, 2013 at 9:25 pm

Dear Gen,
I was surprised she invited us myself, but she insisted! She’s very close and treats me like her best friend :) She said, “Mom, y’all have prepared me for this day and have invested all these years; I want you to be there to share the joy!” We tried to keep our distance and give them space for talking privacy, though, once we got to the 2nd destination! All of our children have different personalities, some have said they’d be more nervous with us there…and I understand completely. But Erin loves people to ooh and aah and share the moment! But whenever chaperones have gone to special occasions like courtship or engagement, in this case, we’ve recommended them to sit at a different table and to give plenty of space! You’d be surprised how close big families are, though, and they actually enjoy the help of decorating, taking pics, and just sharing the excitement. Erin has thanked us a dozen times for coming!! :) Love, Kelly

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Becky B August 29, 2013 at 7:06 pm

I think chaperones are a fabulous idea. They keep things from happening that the couple might regret later. After all, we are all only human. Besides, it’s so fun to share all that excitement with your family. They are a lovely couple and I am so happy for them and for your family and Chad’s. Thank you for sharing this special event in your lives. Can’t wait for Part 2!!!

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Piper August 26, 2013 at 3:26 am

They are so sweet and look so happy :)

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Allanah August 26, 2013 at 3:51 am

These pictures are simply gorgeous! Congratulations again to the happy couple :) It is nice to see so many of your sons and daughters moving on to the next phases in their lives with college, jobs and courtships/weddings. Please keep us updated!

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Annie August 26, 2013 at 4:21 am

Lovely update!! Beautiful pictures. Can’t wait for the rest.

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Susan August 26, 2013 at 4:36 am

Congratulations! So exciting! I will be praying for them as they plan, and begin their new life together! :)

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Heidi August 26, 2013 at 4:57 am

Congrats to the happy couple! It has been so exciting to see it all progressing, and to follow your blog. You are such an encouragement to us as we don’t have very many friends around where we are at the present time. To go on your blog is like a breath of fresh air, and is so very up lifting.
One thing I’ve always noticed about Erin (besides her beautiful smile, as all her sisters have) is the way her hair is always done neat and pretty. I have tried numerous times to copy it, but it hasn’t turned out. Would you be able to give me a few pointers? Such as if she uses rollers or not, if she uses hair spray, and teases it,etc.. Please don’t feel pressured to answer, as I totally understand if you’d rather not.
We are a christian home schooled family, living in Western Canada. I am the sixth of eight children. I have four nieces and one nephew, and my fourth niece just got born to day! The birth of a baby is so precious!!
We look forward to more posts. We love to see and read the new ones, and reread and reread the old ones. Thank you so much for taking the time to post, and to reply to the comments.
God Bless You!
Love from Canada!

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Kelly August 26, 2013 at 9:16 pm

Dear Heidi,
Hmmm…well Erin’s hair is a different texture than all of ours. It is more coarse with a lot of body, so it holds curls really well. Although it may look like she spends the most time on hers, because of its texture and the way it holds curl, she can actually fix it in abut 10 minutes! She sometimes sleeps in about 8 sponge rollers that she uses on dry hair. She doesn’t brush the curls out, but rather twists them with her finger for a ringlet look or fingers through to separate the curls for a looser, more natural look. The body on top is just due to texture and body. Mine is plain flat and thin, unfortunately!! She does use hairspray…usually Dove brand in a white can from Wal-Mart. She can go to sleep and wake up the next day without rerolling or hardly fixing, because her hair holds curl so well. Love, Kelly

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Alison August 27, 2013 at 1:45 pm

I saw this and just wanted to say that I have always thought Erin has beautiful hair! I’ve wondered how she fixes it. :) Thanks for sharing, Ms. Kelly!

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Heidi August 27, 2013 at 3:24 pm

Thank you so much for the reply! I only have one more question on her hair. Is it naturally so beautifully blonde? And, I’ve always thought yours and all your daughter’s hair is beautiful as well.=)

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Kelly August 27, 2013 at 4:31 pm

Dear Heidi,
Yes, that’s her natural color. Love, Kelly

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Brandy Jones August 26, 2013 at 6:35 am

Dear Kelly, you and the Diggers have such amazing families! I love checking your updates! I have a life that is not the same as you guys, with that said I am a single never been married mother of 2 . I’d love for my children to do better, ( saving their whole heart for the one that God has for them ) You guys have raised your children with impeccable mortals. If I could do half as much I would feel beyond grateful. If you have any suggestions I would be more than honored to receive them. I would really appreciate the encouragement! Also I am so overjoyed for Erin & Chad may God continue to bless then every step of the way!

Love,
Brandy

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Kelly September 10, 2013 at 6:41 pm

Dear Brandy,
It sounds like you’re off to a good start already… desire to raise them that way will be a strong motivation that will help you along the way. The best advice I can give is what I am trying to do myself: 1. Put God first in your life, 2. Be faithful to church in order to grow and to show your children your priorities, 3. Learn from others every chance you get. I ask questions every chance I get when I’m around other families. Love, Kelly

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Josie August 26, 2013 at 8:17 am

You left me on a cliff hanger Mrs. Bates!!!
Can’t wait until you post again. I love the dress that Erin has on where did she get it from? Also will the wedding be held in TN or OK? I hope Erin and Chad enjoy their engagement.
Foever Loving Him,
Josie, Perth, Australia

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Kelly August 26, 2013 at 8:59 pm

Dear Josie,
The dress came from Dress Barn, and in my part 2 post she changes to a more formal dress that also came from Dress Barn, because Chad hd prepared her to be ready for a formal dinner. Love, Kelly

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Michelle August 26, 2013 at 11:47 am

Kelly,
What a beautiful couple!! Your whole family is beautiful. Are you expecting a new little one soon? Would be great if TLC signed your family back up. Maybe they will with all the new happenings!!!!!

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Kelly August 26, 2013 at 8:57 pm

Dear Michelle,
Oh I wish there was baby news, but with this big space I’m wondering if age has taken its effects… babies might have to come in the form of grand babies!! I don’t suspect that TLC will want to do our show again, but portions of the courtship were filmed and will be on the Duggar show possibly. Love, Kelly

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Khiana August 26, 2013 at 9:40 pm

That’s great news that your family will be on 19 Kids and Counting I can’t wait for the new season to start. Maybe another network will do a show your family.

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Susan August 26, 2013 at 12:17 pm

Congrats to Chad and Erin. She looked beautiful in that dress. :)

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Rebekah M. August 26, 2013 at 12:32 pm

Aw, this is such a sweet story and I love all the pictures! I can’t wait to see what else Chad had planned for Erin. :) Thank you so much for sharing your family’s life with the rest of us! It’s been a blessing!

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Bethan from Australia August 26, 2013 at 12:55 pm

Dear Kelly,

Congratulations to Chad and Erin!!!

I just want to thank your family for setting such a great example to other people. It encourages young people like me (I’m almost 17) to see other young people serving God and maintaining such a healthy, Jesus-centered relationship! Although some of our convictions might differ a little, as a Christian it’s so uplifting to see!

I love reading your blog from all the way in Adelaide, Australia! Hopefully one day you’ll visit Australia!!!

Love Bethan :)

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Jenn August 26, 2013 at 1:22 pm

What a wonderful blessing for Erin and Chad. Their joy is written all over their faces. And their love story is such an inspiration — even to a long-time married lady like me. Please don’t make us wait too long for part 2! : )

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Kari August 26, 2013 at 1:38 pm

Wow! Great story so far! Calhoun’s is awesome!

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Caarolyn Binnebose August 26, 2013 at 3:02 pm

Congratulations to Chad and Erin, such a sweet couple.
Enjoy your updates..

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Jessica August 26, 2013 at 3:37 pm

Beautiful couple. Their joy radiates through their smiles. Such a wonderful time!!

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Amy August 26, 2013 at 5:10 pm

You said that Erin asked Chad to tell her the day… of the actual proposal, or the day he wanted to take her out? Did she know he was going to propose to her on that day?
She looks absolutely beautiful!
Many prayers for this adorable couple that are soon to be married!
Love,
Amy

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Kelly August 26, 2013 at 8:53 pm

Dear Amy,
She wanted to know the proposal day because she has college, plus teaches piano… but he was still able to pull some big surprises! Love, Kelly

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Kaylee August 26, 2013 at 6:23 pm

What a completely beautiful couple through and through!

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Alison August 26, 2013 at 6:30 pm

How wonderful! Praise God, and glory unto Him! Thank you for sharing. I will be praying for Chad and Erin in this new season of their relationship.
In Jesus,
Alison

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fionajean August 26, 2013 at 7:23 pm

What a testamony,to (courtship or Dating with a True purpose)
May the Lord Raindown Blessings ,On this Union.

We can sing Praises to God <
John3:16-17

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Aine August 26, 2013 at 9:36 pm

Hi Mrs Bayes, thank you for showing a good Christian example. Thank you also Erin and Chad and Zach and Whit for sharing their stories. It’s gratefully appreciated. I also liked Erin’s white dress. I saw you mention that Erin got them in dress barn . Does dress barn have a website for overseas readers of your blog?

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Khiana August 26, 2013 at 9:37 pm

Congrats Erin and Chad. Beautiful pics.

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Aine August 26, 2013 at 9:38 pm

Please excuse my typo in the above post Mrs Bates

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Pam A. August 26, 2013 at 9:57 pm

Very pretty photos-love blue and white! Is there a photo of the pretty ring, as well????

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Kelly August 27, 2013 at 4:56 pm

Dear Pam,
Coming up!! Love, Kelly

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Megan L. August 26, 2013 at 10:09 pm

Wait, Zach and Whitney are getting married ?!? Also, how are the other kids doing? (:

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Kelly September 10, 2013 at 8:22 pm

Dear Megan,
Well, coming up soon…lol! One at a time…haha!! They’ll be getting engaged soon! Love, Kelly

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Gary August 26, 2013 at 10:57 pm

I hope Zachs girlfriend doesn’t review this page cause y’all spilled the beans about the ring! Congrats and god bless to all!

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Kelly August 27, 2013 at 4:55 pm

Dear Gary,
LOL!!…Actually, Zach told her he got it…he’s SOOOOOOOO excited he can’t keep a secret! He even sent her a pic! I couldn’t believe it! He was bubbling over like a kid! If he spoils his engagement plans and doesn’t surprise her, his family is gonna oust him..LOL! I think he’s told everyone in the world, but her! Love, Kelly

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Gary September 2, 2013 at 10:40 pm

LOL! hey when you feel like that you just want to share it with the world, I know the feeling, in this day and age as long as you do it for the right reasons, then who’s to say how it should be done, wish them all the best!

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Patti August 26, 2013 at 11:40 pm

I love the pictures! Beautiful setting, beautiful couple.

Is there any chance the wedding will be live-streamed? Please, please, please?

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Kelly August 27, 2013 at 4:49 pm

Dear Patti,
We’ll check on that. I think our old producer, Matthew Hightower, might be filming it. He asked to film portions of the engagement. Love, Kelly

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elena August 27, 2013 at 1:57 am

Thank you Kelly for the update..I was married 24 years ago on Aug. 5th, so thank you. Another special occasion. Your words on chaperoning is so true. I did not raise my own children in this manner but it is beautiful. It wasn’t anything I was brought up with, so it never occurred to me. I’ve learnt so many values from you and your husband as well as Michelle and JimBob. I appreciate it and apply what I can, now that they are 22, 21, 18. I love that your children are doing well, and joy and love is spreading in your home. Cheers to many more happy days ahead. Sounds like you will be very busy helping to plan your first wedding. Keep the pictures coming.

With Respect,
Elena

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Mikala August 27, 2013 at 2:38 am

Hi Mrs. Bates,

I sent you an email. Is there a certain time period during which you respond to those? :-)

Erin and Chad make a beautiful couple! And gosh, Erin always looks so pristine and fixed-up! Does she never have a bad hair day? LOL

Thanks,
Mikala

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Kelly August 27, 2013 at 4:45 pm

Dear Mikala,
Oh I’m so behind on emails…like 6-8 months!! I’m so sorry. I’m little faster with post office letters, but still behind. I carry mail with me to dentist visits and write during the office wait! Love, Kelly

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LaRae Heinle August 27, 2013 at 3:19 am

Thank you for sharing this beautiful story! Can’t wait for part two!! I look forward to your updates and admire you all so much. Refreshing!! God bless you all.
La Rae

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Erin August 27, 2013 at 4:45 am

Congratulations! God is so good! How old is Erin?

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Kelly August 27, 2013 at 4:43 pm

Dear Erin,
She’s 22. Love, Kelly

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Lori Buckner August 27, 2013 at 5:05 am

To be CONTINUED????? I’m crying over hear (with joy of course) and you are making us wait?? just kidding of course.
What gorgeous pictures of such a blessed moment in all of your lives. Love!

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Lori Buckner August 27, 2013 at 5:05 am

ack – that should have been over here..not hear

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Tanja August 27, 2013 at 7:32 am

Greetings from Finland! I have enjoyed reading your blog and always thinking what a great gift you have in writing skills!

Congratulations to Erin and Chad and of course both of the families! <3 It is always nice to see young hearts fell in love. It is also great to see how close you are with your young adults and it seems that you and Gil are still in love, that´s wonderful!

Have you shared any parenting tips? Like how to keeps up when the first child is crowing up and you always have to learn new things yourself. My oldest daughter is turning 10 soon and she has some mood swings and oh my… sometimes I just want to kick and scream myself! Lol :)

I am having hard times with my health and ask if you could say a little prayer for me.

Thank you and looking forward to read more news!

Tanja

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Kelly August 27, 2013 at 4:43 pm

Dear Tanja,
Sometimes we expect our children’s moods, attitudes, and responses to always be perfect…lol…but we forget ours, as adults, rarely are right! We need to remember they’re age, remember they’re learning, and remember they’re not perfect…As parents we want to patiently give them room to grow, while be loving and patient with their shortfalls. Talk with a calm voice, ask questions…Like: “Do you think that was the right response? How could you have acted differently? What response do you think would please the Lord?” Role play and redo the scene with a more acceptable response. Give hugs and let them know you’re both working together to try to be more Christ-like in our responses. Take a deep breath, go in a peaceful room, and hum a hymn or pray if you feel yourself feeling stressed and wanting to respond wrong. Hymns have an amazing calming influence. I often hum to myself throughout the day! Play Godly music in your home…soft, not busy music…It sounds silly, but you’d be surprised how it affects the atmosphere!
Yes, I’ll pray for your health! And no, we don’t know any Duggar relationship news. They are wise to wait and not discuss, so that others don’t tease and get involved prematurely :) Love, Kelly

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Olga August 27, 2013 at 9:31 am

What? To be continued? Oh, I can’t wait :-D

Congratulations to them.

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Sophie August 27, 2013 at 10:59 am

Dear Kelly,

First of all, Congratulations with the engagement of Erin!
I have a little question:
How old are Erin and Chad?

Thank you!
Sophie

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Kelly September 10, 2013 at 8:20 pm

Dear Sophie,
Erin is 22 and Chad is 26. Love, Kelly

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Chelsey August 27, 2013 at 2:02 pm

What a sweet couple! So in love with each other and with the Lord. I am 21, married over a year and currently expecting my husband and I’s first child this coming February. We did not go the courtship route, instead dating with a purpose, however we went further physically than we should have. You family and other’s like you have helped to show what healthy purpose filled dating with purity can actually look like in practice. I hope to instill in my children (hopefully a big family) this sort of purity before and after marriage. Whether or not they choose to go that route is their own decision once they are adults however, I hope I help develop that conviction in them. How did you teach your children what a true potential marriage partner would seem to them? I know emotion and infatuation can be quickly carried away to confuse with true love. What did you ask them to look for? and any news on any potential Duggar relationships in the near future that you are aware of?

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Kelly January 12, 2014 at 3:19 am

Dear Chelsey,
First, we tried to role model a happy, loving relationship. They saw we weren’t perfect, but they did see love and commitment. We talked often about important qualities for a spouse to have. We talked openly about couples who visited: asking questions like, “What would you like to copy that you see in their relationship?” or “What do you think you would want to do differently as a spouse?” They began to notice little details of what made a good husband or a great husband, or sometimes a bad husband, etc. When we would talk about couples that they thought had a good marriage, I would ask them, “Why do you think their marriage is good?” “What is it you notice about him that characterizes him as a good husband?” Obviously, first and foremost, they wanted a spouse that was Godly, doctrinally sound, and committed to the Lord. They wanted a spouse that was faithful, morally pure, and humble. They wanted a spouse that was thoughtful and attentive to needs. They wanted a spouse committed to family goals. Apart from that, they each had their own ideas of qualities that were attractive and important in marriage. We talked about these frequently, but at the same time I wanted them to realize there are no perfect people. It’s important to have goals, but not to let those goals turn to expectations that are unreasonable. Some things can’t be given in on, like doctrinal beliefs. Some things, you set goals but give room to grow. Its important to discern which category the quality fits into…a must have, or room to grow. I’ve seen some families expect the impossible. I’ve seen others who didn’t have high enough expectations in some areas. Love, Kelly

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Sheri August 27, 2013 at 5:18 pm

Ahhhh. It’s so wonderful to see two people so in love. And to see God’s hand and blessings in it all. Thanks for sharing, to be sure… it is an encouragement to others. :-)
Lv,
Sheri

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Tashia August 27, 2013 at 6:06 pm

These pictures are soooo neat! Congratz Erin and Chad!!!!!!!

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Shelly August 27, 2013 at 7:01 pm

Dear Kelly,

Thank you for sharing the pictures. They make such a beautiful couple. I cannot wait to see pictures of Zach and his beautiful wife to be.

Quick question…..Is there any chance that we might see the Bates show return? I know I personally would LOVE IT along with so many others. God Bless!

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Kelly August 30, 2013 at 1:48 pm

Dear Shelly,
I don’t know what the future holds, but some of our old film crew missed us and came to do some filming at their own expense! We love them dearly! Love, Kelly

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Shelly August 27, 2013 at 7:03 pm

Dear Kelly,

Thank you for sharing the pictures. They make such a beautiful couple. I cannot wait to see more pictures of Zach and his beautiful bride to be.

Quick question…..Is there any chance that we might see the Bates show return? I know I personally would LOVE IT along with so many others.

God Bless!

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Kelly August 28, 2013 at 12:33 am

Dear Shelly,
I don’t think they have any plans for that, but they are showing excerpts of the engagement on the Duggars show possibly. Love, Kelly

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Karen August 27, 2013 at 8:37 pm

Hi: I wanted to give you a heads up that there is a website (www.chadloveserin.com) that looks like it was set up by either Chad or Erin…..but I’m not sure it was. I am not sure what can be done about it if it isn’t your site, but I’d thought I’d give you a heads up. Looking foward to the rest of the story……

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Kelly August 28, 2013 at 12:32 am

Dear Karen,
Yes, Chad is actually trying to work on getting a website running for them…but I don’t think he has it anywhere near finished yet, so hopefully soon… Love, Kelly

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Denise S. August 27, 2013 at 10:34 pm

Congrats to Erin and Chad.. I can not wait for part 2!! Many blessings to both of them, and thank you for sharing their story with us all!!

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Jordan August 28, 2013 at 3:03 am

Kelly,
I recently had someone speak of a secular “love story” movie. They said, “It’s my favorite movie! It’s just such a good love story.” Full of lust, broken hearts and betral. I read this post and thought now this is an awesome love story! Two people set on glorifying Christ in pursuit of their mate. Purity being guarded with aim to bring each other closer to Christ. The only better love story is Jesus paying for our sins! Having two young children(so far) of my own its so encouraging to see in the midst of this crazy world that by His grace a godly generation could be brought up. I can only imagine how humbling and rewarding it is to see some of the fruit of following His ways in training your children! What a blessed new season of life!
Your sister in Christ,
Jordan

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Maggie August 28, 2013 at 4:46 am

I’m so happy for Erin and Chad!! Congratulations!!!! Late November is a wonderful time to get married. I had a friend get married in late fall. She used the white pumpkins with gold glitter dusted across the top. They were so beautiful the church lights reflected off of the glitter. It was very elegant ( I know pumpkins and elegant don’t mix but she pulled it of) lol. I can not wait to see part two!!! God Bless!!

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Megan August 28, 2013 at 6:03 am

Can’t wait for part 2! Very cute that Zachary is acting the way he is, he seems as though he’d be a romantic at heart!

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Donna August 28, 2013 at 2:53 pm

Thank you for allowing us to be a small part of this magical time. All GOOD news is a blessing in these days. This is like a wonderful book where you anticipate each and every new chapter. I love sharing this with young people I know. Trying to show them it is worth waiting for the right person is so worth it.

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Shannon August 28, 2013 at 3:10 pm

Dear Kelly,
Thank you for sharing your childrens’ courtship stories. It is a real encouragement to see the courtship principles “in-action”. My DH and I have agreed to encourage this route when the time comes with our kids (who are not talking yet), even though we pursued a “regular” dating model ourselves. Of course, we know from experience how damaging dating can be. God Bless!

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Khiana August 28, 2013 at 4:33 pm

I just want to inform everyone that on September 3, 4, and 5 @ 6:00am and 6:30am their showing reruns of United Bates of America on TLC. I’m so excited because I didn’t see the chicken coop episode. Can’t wait looking forward to next week.

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Tami August 30, 2013 at 5:43 pm

Thanks for telling us Khiana!

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Khiana September 9, 2013 at 12:27 am

Your welcome Tami. I recorded every episode and watched it a least twice. I missed thier show.

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Marilyn August 28, 2013 at 9:00 pm

Congratulations Erin and Chad.
May your life together be filled with,love,peace,good health and happiness.
God Bless
Marilyn and Family

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Stacy August 29, 2013 at 3:05 am

Dear Bates Family,

I am so happy for Chad and Erin. They make a delightful couple and are so sweet together. You can see it in their eyes and expressions. I pray God will bless them and their future home. Many blessings upon the family..I know this may sound strange but will Erin be having the wedding in Tn and having a fall themed wedding?.. Anyway, I love seeing two people who honor the Lord come together in such a fashion.

Stacy

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Kelly August 30, 2013 at 1:45 pm

Dear Stacy,
She is going to marry in TN, but the colors are lt. and med. blue… so it’s not fall themed. Love, Kelly

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Evelyn August 29, 2013 at 3:45 am

Congratulations Erin and Chad! Please post part two soon:)

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Emily S. August 29, 2013 at 4:24 am

Congrats to the lovely couple!! How beautiful that Erin wanted to share her special moment with you and Gil! Such a blessing!!

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Caryn August 29, 2013 at 3:11 pm

Dear Kelly, such beautiful pictures, thank you for sharing! Your daughter is gorgeous and looks so absolutely in love!!! Congratulations to Erin & Chad. I am wondering how did you figure out your guidelines for your children regarding relationships (dating). I have a 14 year old daughter and next year is high school, dating is not something that we are worrying about now but those relationships are around the corner. It’s scary!!! Neither my husband or myself grew up with strict guidelines and we would like to help our children from making the mistakes that we did in high school and college. We celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary yesterday!!! Much love to you and your family! Caryn

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Kelly September 10, 2013 at 8:18 pm

Dear Caryn,
Like most things, we learned from others, and we tried to learn from our mistakes. We’re still learning ….and changing! We learn something new with each of our children since they have different personalities. Love, Kelly

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Meg August 29, 2013 at 6:55 pm

Congrats Erin and Chad! It’s such an an encouragement as a young adult to see God bringing couples together in a way that honors him! Thank you for sharing such a special moment in y’all’s life with us!
Love,
Meg

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sonjapetersen August 29, 2013 at 7:03 pm

Hi Kelly,
lovely photos, a happy couple and proud parents!
What is Chads job? He is looking like a salesman or teacher- please tell me! And did you already find a preacher/pastor who is doing the wedding ceremonial?
How exciting for you and your family, I am sure its gonna be a wonderful day. God bless you! Love, Sonja

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Kelly August 30, 2013 at 1:43 pm

Dear Sonja,
Chad does construction. Yes, one of our favorite preachers is doing the vows, and Gil is doing the charge. Love, Kelly

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Liza Jane August 29, 2013 at 8:49 pm

I was wondering about an update on Michael’s trip to Central America? Are there pictures and stories from her trip?

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Kelly August 30, 2013 at 1:42 pm

Dear Liza,
Yes, we’ll post about her trip…We’re waiting on pics from the others since Michael didn’t take a camera. Love, Kelly

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Symphony August 29, 2013 at 9:11 pm

cant wait to see the next post! can you please post the segments of the engagement that were filmed? i would LOVE to see them!=)
symphony

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Linda Robinson August 29, 2013 at 9:58 pm

Dear Chad & Erin,
Congratulations on such wonderful news! These photos are absoloutly beautiful, what a lovely couple you make.

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mjw August 30, 2013 at 12:38 am

Congratulations to the couple! Where will they live after the wedding? Will Erin still be in school?

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Kelly September 10, 2013 at 8:16 pm

Dear MJW,
They will live near Knoxville until Erin finishes school. She took this semester (her last) off in order to plan the wedding. Lord willing, she’ll graduate next spring. Love, Kelly

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Kim August 30, 2013 at 5:06 am

Congratulations to the happy couple and their families!!! The best pic of all (in part 2) is you all hugging (and praying, I’m assuming) at the end. Love it! God bless you bunches!

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Sharon Krizanovic August 31, 2013 at 11:12 pm

Such a beautiful couple & I’m sure just as beautiful on the inside as the out. Several years ago my husband and I adopted a sibling group out of the foster care system. We chose a family vacation at Whitestone to begin our new future as a family. So beautiful to know that this special young couple have began the new future as a family there as well. What a wonderful setting.

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bethany m September 5, 2013 at 4:30 pm

Hi Kelly,
Thank you so much for the time you take to personally respond to questions asked on your blog. Chad & Erin and Zach & Whit have been a good example of waiting for intimacy until marriage. Thanks for sharing details with your readers. I pray for your family and hope to some day attend your church in Clinton as we pass through your town! Love in Christ with many prayers, Bethany.

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Arminda D September 10, 2013 at 4:20 am

Hey Kelly!
I’ve been reading up on the updates! It’s been too long since I’ve seen you all! I know you all are crazy busy these days but would love to run into you or something someday soon! I have so many memories of “Little Erin” and am so happy for the children all grown up and getting married! I am so excited to see what God has in store for you all! I will get a letter out to you soon and some pictures of my “little blessings” too!

Love,
Arminda
~Nahum 1:7~

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Kelly September 10, 2013 at 6:01 pm

Dear Arminda,
You were a wonderful babysitter…the children have fond memories of their time with you…and we’ve all benefited through the years from the sewing lessons you gave Michael and Erin when they were only ten and eleven! God bless you and your sweet family! Love, Kelly

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Arminda D September 11, 2013 at 11:40 am

Awe thank you! I still have some of the sweet little notes the girls wrote me when I was babysitting when they were so young! Asking me if they can stay up til Mom and Dad got home after the younger ones went to bed etc. I have so many fond memories of them too!

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heidi schatz September 14, 2013 at 4:11 am

Ho Mrs.Bates!!!
I stumbled on your blog today and abput cried seeing sweet Erin about to get married!!!! kelsey tries to keep me posted on big news but I hadn’t heard. What a blessing and what beautiful pictures!!! We have been in ND now for 4 years working with Master’s Baptist College but we sure do miss Knoxville and all of our friends. I think the last time we were at your home the hoise was being remodeled amd we had just had our 3rd baby….well, now our fourth baby just turned 2!! HA!! I still think of you all oftrn and am so thanlful for your sweet family. We hope to come home to Knoxville in the spring to visit family…maybe we can visit you all amd catch up. Much love, heidi s. {and I’m really missong some good TN gospel singing amd Kelsey playing fiddle!!!:))}

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Kelly September 16, 2013 at 7:03 am

Dear Heidi,
erin adores you and will be so excited to hear you are coming back for a visit. Sounds like we have a few babies to meet! Love, Kelly

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Mare September 15, 2013 at 4:54 pm

Dear Mrs. Bates,
I am a fellow sister in Christ and I so dearly respect your family and admire your gentleness. Thank you for such a wonderful influence by Gods grace.
I want to ask about a pre-wedding event. Before I got married, my bridesmaids threw me a small lingerie shower. It was a beautiful dinner and gifts with my very very close girlfriends. I was wondering your family’s stance on something like that for your soon-to-be brides?

Thank you!

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Kelly September 16, 2013 at 2:37 pm

Dear Mare,
I think a shower like that among close friends that are girls can be done very tastefully. Erin just attended one for one of her best friends. Love, Kelly

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Ericka September 21, 2013 at 10:17 pm

Congratulations to Erin and Chad, God bless them today and always.
Kelly .. I am wondering where did Erin get all these clothes, so pretty! I want have more clothes of modesty but also modern. I will aprecciate your help where i can find nice clothes and modesty. Thanks, God Bless you.

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Kelly October 1, 2013 at 8:58 pm

Dear Ericka,
Her outfits came from DressBarn, but she shops at thrift stores mainly. Love, Kelly

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Amanda September 26, 2013 at 1:17 am

Very happy for Erin and Chad! They make a beautiful couple and their photos are soooo pretty! It is easy to see how in love they are by the way they look at each other in pictures.

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Gina October 4, 2013 at 6:41 am

Hi Kelly,
Erin looks super beautiful in those dresses! Thanks for the DressBarn tip! Have your daughters been to mikarose.com? The website is devoted to fashion-forward modest clothing for young women and it’s not too expensive either. I think your girls would love it! I just stumbled upon it today and thought to mention it to you :)

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Ashley October 14, 2013 at 1:18 am

I am so happy for Erin and Chad!! I can’t wait to look at more pictures of them when they get married! God bless you both and ya’ll’s family!!!

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Julie November 1, 2013 at 11:59 am

Hello Kelly,
I want to say how much I love your family as you all love The Lord. I feel blessed to see a family so close to God. I am a mom of three teenage sons and I have recently come back to The Lord! Praise The lord for He is good. I am asking for all strong in their Faith Christians to please pray for my sons as they do not want anything to do with The Lord and its a long story of the life we have had here but I love The Lord and my husband and sons do not. It hurts as a Mom to see this. I appreciate any help in prayer. I love your family and how much yall help me. God Bless you all. Thank you and may Jesus continue to bring love and joy and happiness to Your family. Congradulations to your beautiful daughter Erin for getting married November 2nd and her soon to be husband.
Love in Christ
Julie Stephens

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Kelly November 8, 2013 at 9:42 pm

Dear Julie,
Our God is a God of miracles. Don’t give up hope! We’ll join you in prayer!!! Love, Kelly

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